Childhood trauma can have lasting effects on every aspect of a person’s life. It often stems from difficult or overwhelming experiences during early years, shaping how someone feels, thinks, and reacts even long after the events have passed. Let’s look at five indicators of childhood trauma and how they show up in daily life.
1. Memories That Are Missing
One of the clearest signs of childhood trauma is having few or no memories from early years. This is something I’ve often heard reported by clients, and they often express some confusion around it.
This isn’t just forgetting; it’s the brain’s way of protecting itself.
When early experiences are too overwhelming, the mind blocks them out. This can sometimes feel like a relief (“it’s probably for the best”), but it can also leave someone feeling disconnected from their own story.
2. A Nervous System on High Alert
Childhood trauma often keeps the body stuck in fight or flight mode. This means the body is always on edge, ready to respond to danger—even if there’s no real threat.
It can show up as:
– a racing heart
– quick breathing
– feeling jumpy at small noises.
Over time, this constant stress can be draining, making it hard to relax or feel safe.
3. Overwhelmed From Morning to Night
Living with childhood trauma can feel like starting every day in the middle of a storm. From the moment the day begins, there’s a sense of being overwhelmed. Many people with childhood trauma didn’t learn how to manage their emotions growing up, making it even harder to deal with the ups and downs of daily life. This emotional overload can sap energy, focus, and well-being.
I have experienced this sense of overwhelm into adulthood, eventually understanding its connection with my adverse upbringing. I notice it when I drive, when I engage in work meetings, and when I am in social settings.
Check out my article on strategies to recover from burnout.
4. Over-Explaining to Feel Safe
A common sign of childhood trauma is explaining too much. My friends will tell you that this describes me to a tee.
This might look like giving lots of details about actions or thoughts, hoping to avoid being misunderstood or punished. For many, this habit stems from early experiences where being misunderstood could lead to conflict or harm.
5. Dissociation and Concentration Struggles
Concentration can be difficult for those who’ve experienced childhood trauma. Spending too much time focusing can lead to dissociation—a state where the mind disconnects from the present moment. While dissociation can feel like a way to escape overwhelming feelings, it often disrupts daily tasks and leaves someone feeling lost or confused about what they were doing.
Finding a Path Forward
Living with childhood trauma is challenging, but healing is possible. Recognizing these five indicators of childhood trauma is the first step toward understanding its impact. Therapy, mindfulness practices, and learning emotional regulation techniques can help rebuild a sense of safety and control. Though the path isn’t always straightforward, small, consistent steps can lead to significant progress.
If this resonates with you, know that you’re not alone. Support and resources are available to help you navigate and heal.
If this article resonated with you, check out
“Understanding Childhood Trauma: How Therapy Can Jumpstart Your Healing Journey.”
“Understanding the Impact of Complex PTSD from Childhood Trauma”
