Signs You’re Experiencing Betrayal Trauma
By Stephanie Boucher, Registered Psychotherapist | The Mindful Loft The short version: If you were betrayed and you still cannot stop the looping thoughts, the checking, the 3 a.m. waking, or the feeling that you do not recognize yourself, you are not broken and you are not overreacting. These can be signs of betrayal trauma. […]
After Discovering Infidelity: What to Do in the First 30 Days
Stephanie Boucher is a Registered Psychotherapist and the founder of The Mindful Loft, a practice specializing in betrayal trauma and relational recovery. The short version: In the first 30 days after discovering infidelity, your body is in shock and your decisions cannot be fully trusted yet because they are coming from a place of fear […]
Why Narcissists Cheat: The Hidden Link Between Narcissism and Infidelity
By Stephanie Boucher, Registered Psychotherapist | The Mindful Loft The short version: People often say narcissists cheat because of their need for validation, their lack of empathy, and their desire for control. There’s truth in that, and this article looks at what the research actually shows about narcissism and infidelity, which is more complicated than […]
Why Denying Cheating Hurts More Than the Betrayal Itself
By Stephanie Boucher, Registered Psychotherapist | The Mindful Loft The short version: When a partner cheats and then keeps denying cheating, the denial can hurt more than the affair itself. The affair breaks your trust in your partner. The denial goes further. It asks you to stop trusting your own mind. This article explains why […]
What is Betrayal Trauma? An Explanation for Both the Betrayed and the Betrayer
By Stephanie Boucher, Registered Psychotherapist | The Mindful Loft The short version: Betrayal trauma is what can happen when someone you depend on for safety, love, honesty, or stability deeply breaks your trust. It can feel so destabilizing because the person who was supposed to be safe became connected to danger. This article explains what […]
Understanding the Emotional Aftermath of Infidelity: Why It Feels Like PTSD
Infidelity can trigger intense emotional and psychological reactions, leaving a lasting impact on the betrayed partner. Many people liken these reactions to symptoms of infidelity PTSD—and that comparison makes sense. The emotional aftermath of infidelity is more than just broken trust; it’s a profound shock to the system that can cause anxiety, flashbacks, and emotional […]
Cheating Is Not About Love: What’s Really Going On?
“If you love someone, you would never cheat, right?” This is something many of us believe. It makes sense to think that way. But here’s the hard truth: cheating isn’t always about not loving someone. Most of the time, it’s about fear, emotional pain, and unresolved issues. Why Do People Cheat? In my experience as […]
